Sad music can make us cry, but we love listening to it.These people have been trying to figure out why

American writer Susan Cain is a big fan of grief.

More specifically, she is deeply interested in sad music and the “mysterious and seemingly contradictory” joy or pleasure it can evoke.

Ms Kane has been trying to understand why sad music – such as Leonard Cohen’s – moves her more than other genres.

understand it It gets trickier because of some of the stigma surrounding grief. Ms Kane argues that we tend to avoid sad emotions as if they were something to be ashamed of.

“We all know that life contains the extremes of joy and sadness, and everything in between…but we shouldn’t be talking about half of our emotional experience,” she told ABC RN life matters.

Susan Cain, with long brown hair and a black shirt, looking up from the torso, sitting with hands facing each other, smiling slightly.
Author Susan Cain has been trying for decades to understand why she likes listening to sad music.(Provided by: Aaron Fedor)

But in a world full of “toxic positivity,” she said it’s not just okay to explore what it’s like to feel “sad, heartache or longing” — it’s essential to living a full and meaningful life.

The “Mystery” of Sad Music

When Ms. Kane listens to melancholic music, she doesn’t feel bad.

Instead, the music gave her a “sense of connection” with others. It inspires feelings of “love and gratitude” for musicians or music “for being able to transform what apparently begins with sadness into something beautiful and beyond”.