Busy Phillips discusses Mark Silverstein split

“It’s a traditional idea of ​​what a person should do in the public eye when their relationship ends.”

busy phillips On her podcast, she explained that she and husband Mark Silverstein split last February.

Steve Granitz/WireImage/Getty Images

The two married in 2007 and have two children together – 13 year old birdie and 8 year old cricket.

Patrick McMullen/Patrick McMullen via Getty Images

Busy revealed before In her memoir, she filed for divorce from Mark in 2016, but the two were able to get things going after Mark found his own therapist. She further pointed to Mark’s lack of involvement in parenting as the reason the two nearly broke up in the past.

“It’s been a long time now, and Mark and I have been separated,” Busey explained. “Our kids know it, our families know it, our friends know it, and we really discussed how to deal with it publicly.”

David Livingston/Getty Images

“The truth is that when their relationship ends, it’s a conventional idea of ​​what a person should be in the public eye. It’s very mature, right? You make a statement, you’re committed to being friends, ‘Please respect our Privacy during this time and privacy of our family. But the truth is, who made this rule?”

Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic for HBO/Getty Images

“If anything, the past few years have shown me that you can only do what’s right for you and your family, whether or not you have a public-facing life or you’re just posting on Facebook. Because at this point, All of us, have a public-facing life. You don’t have to follow conventional thinking just because it’s been done. I really believe in that.

Kevin Winter/Getty Images

“Mark and I talked about it, and when we first got separated, we didn’t even think about making these statements. It made us both sick. Really sick,” Busey continued, noting that able to “ensure privacy [their] When the public isn’t involved right away, the kids” are the most important thing.

Sasha Hagensen/Stringer/Getty Images

“We haven’t quite dealt with it yet, Mark and I. But we’re in one place, we’ve had a lot of conversations and therapy sessions, and we thought it would be a good time for me to at least speak out on this podcast,” she added.

Astrid Stawiarz / Getty Images for Variety

Busey then explained how the two found a way to separate through therapy. She said: “We are very much in love. We have these beautiful kids together and there is a lot of really useful stuff in our relationship.”

Phillip Faraone/Getty Images for Baby2Baby

The pair opted for a “nested” separation model, where the kids will stay in one home, while Busy and Marc will take turns living there – although they will sometimes be at home together, such as when the family has recently dealt with COVID.

Ari Perilstein/Stringer/Getty Images

“Obviously, it’s not for everyone. Sometimes for the two of us, there’s a lot of complexity and difficulty in the arrangement. Obviously, the key is to not let the kids feel or see it,” she added.

Dave Kotinsky / Getty Images Meteor

You can listen to the full episode Busy Phillips is doing his best here.