Brian Dowling reveals sister Aoife is surrogate mother to his baby with husband Arthur Gourounlian

Brian Dowling has said he and husband Arthur Gruenlian are “the luckiest people in the world” after his sister Offie agreed to be their surrogate.

and Mama Productions: PodcastThe 43-year-old star says he has always wanted to be a dad and his sister has generously offered to make his dream come true by bringing in donated eggs.

However, the TV presenter revealed that the journey to becoming a father has been difficult after he and his husband discovered “things along the way” meant that only one person could become the biological father of a child.

The couple also became the target of homophobic abuse after starting their parenting journey.

'I've always wanted to be a parent': Brian Dowling, 44 (left), reveals sister Aoife is his surrogate as he and husband Arthur find 'difficulties along the way' in becoming a father

‘I’ve always wanted to be a parent’: Brian Dowling, 44 (left), reveals sister Aoife is his surrogate as he and husband Arthur find ‘difficulties along the way’ in becoming a father

While it wasn’t revealed who would be their child’s biological father, Brian told host Zoe Hardman: “For me and Arthur, it makes no difference”.

The star’s sister, who is due to give birth later this year, married professional dancer Arthur in 2015 and said they both come from big families and they always wanted children.

“I’ve always wanted to be a parent, I remember taking my two younger sisters to somewhere in Disney Paris when I was working at Ryanair and I don’t think I’d be over 20 or 21 and they were very young. Remember to tell Others I am their parent, let them ride.”

Two becomes three: Sister Brian (left) is due to give birth later this year, married professional dancer Arthur (right) in 2015, and says they both come from big families and they always wanted children

Two becomes three: Sister Brian (left) is due to give birth later this year, married professional dancer Arthur (right) in 2015, and says they both come from big families and they always wanted children

The former Big Brother host, who also hosts his own podcast Death to Be Him, continues to reminisce about the moment his sister Aoife made a generous offer.

“At Christmas 2020, Aoife said, ‘I’m definitely interested in doing this for you,’ and we kind of thought: ‘Oh my God, maybe this is something we really need to think about,’ and I said to Arthur, “I I’m 44 this year, and when I say 45 I just think I’m too old” – Arthur is two years younger than me.

While not giving any details of the egg donation, he said: “We went for a walk and she said: ‘I really want to do this, I really, really want to help you guys, I think you’ve done it for me so much”.

He added: “She’s single, she’s 32, so you know, so it’s going to be an amazing feeling to experience this whole thing. But then there’s no responsibility.

“So, the way it happened was very natural, and it was Aoife who initiated these conversations, which reassured us very much.”

He went on to reveal that the couple had previously lost two embryos after doctors determined they were not viable.

“I’m sad because to me it’s not just an egg and sperm, it’s an embryo, they know the sex, and for me it’s a loss. I know it sounds dramatic. But to me In other words, that’s a loss.”

Grieving: Brian says heterosexual couples won't face the same scrutiny after receiving negative comments online since the announcement

Grieving: Brian says heterosexual couples won’t face the same scrutiny after receiving negative comments online since the announcement

The star went on to discuss the positive feedback the trio has received since the announcement.

He said: “My sister went for a tan and she was naked and the woman said: ‘Oh, you Brandon’s sister – you’ve done an amazing job. “

But the positives also come with the negatives, as he says heterosexual couples don’t face the same scrutiny.

“Some people can’t accept the fact that two men who chose to be gay are forcing this, you know, ‘raping the uterus’, ‘renting the uterus’, ‘forcing this woman into trouble’.

“We go from things like ‘Okay, I hope she doesn’t get cancer from hormones’, ‘men shouldn’t have babies’, ‘you’re disgusting’.

“The day we chose to be gay, we gave up our parenting rights…but you know, it was based on pure homophobia, that’s all.

“I know those surrogates are straight, but they don’t understand. Gay or lesbian do it? Everyone has their own opinion.

How does surrogacy work and what are the laws in the UK?

Surrogacy is when a woman acts as a surrogate for a couple who are unable to conceive or have children on their own.

Such couples may include those who have suffered repeated miscarriages, repeated IVF failures, premature menopause or hysterectomy.

Surrogacy carries the same risks as every pregnancy, including nausea, heart burn and back pain.

In extreme cases, the surrogate mother may have high blood pressure or gestational diabetes.

direct surrogacy

This involves using the surrogate’s eggs and the intended father’s sperm.

This is the cheapest and easiest form of procedure.

Host Surrogacy

Host surrogacy requires in vitro fertilization using the intended mother’s eggs or the donor’s eggs, not the surrogate’s eggs.

In this case, the surrogate is not genetically related to the baby.

Donated eggs can be from a friend or relative, or anonymously.

What are the legal provisions?

Surrogacy is legal in the UK, but cannot be advertised.

No third parties are allowed, and the surrogate mother can only receive payment to cover expenses incurred as a result of the pregnancy.

Surrogacy costs around $100,000 (£75,879) in the US, and laws vary from state to state.

resource: Surrogacy in the UK